Back at the Work Desk

I’m back at work.

After 1.5 years of being out of the office I’m sitting back at the desk, doing my bit for my country and family.

Warm welcome

Since I was last here I have changed in so many ways. I’ve been bought to my knees with grief after watching and nursing my vivacious young Ma being stolen bit by bit by brain cancer and having to say goodbye. I’ve learnt what really matters in life and striving to get my YOLO groove on.

My kangaroo pouch has gotten larger and my heart fuller as our second son Ari came into our worlds and bought sunshine to the shadows.

Our eldest Leo has gone from bub to little man, giving the best hugs and kisses while making us laugh and pull out our hair simultaneously 🙂

My Boys

 

Speaking of hair, I’ve chopped off mine as a lot of women do when their lives veer into a different courses and I’ve got a Fitbit as I realise I just can’t get to the gym at the moment.

Yet, back at the office desk I feel like a piece of the old me has returned. Emma not Mum is back! I can think about non-kid matters and wear some nice clothes plus enjoy a hot drink before getting cold! I’m recognised for the ‘work me’ and I like it.

 

Morning tea, how i have missed you!

 

But it isn’t all roses and I guess the striving for work/life balance never is. I know it will take a while for the family to regain a new schedule with drop offs/pick ups, keeping the house clean, mouths fed and all that. It has only been two weeks and I’m only going back two days a week for now, so easy does it I’m sure.

The truth is I’m still grieving, still picking up the pieces a year later on. But in these tough times for many people struggling financially and unable to find work, I feel very blessed and thankful for having the office desk to go back to.

 

Are you a working mum? How did you find the transition back into work? What do you find as the biggest challenge balancing work and domestic duties? Love to hear your thoughts!

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13 Comments

  1. Love this Stroudy. So proud of you! Working Mum’s are incredible and make such sacrifices for their families. Working then coming home to a family is no mean feat. Good for you for seeing it in such a positive light x

    • Thanks so much Danni!
      Your encouragement means the world.
      Actually wrote this after having a big cry because I was feeling so overwhelmed and coming up short of expectations. x

    • Thanks so much Danni!
      Your encouragement means the world.
      Actually wrote this after having a big cry because I was feeling so overwhelmed and coming up short of expectations. x

      • I can’t imagine you ever doing anything but smashing everyone’s expectations Em. I think it was Sex and the City that said “the secret to having it all is not expecting it to look like you thought it would”. That’s been my motto since going back to work as I let my team down constantly by being off with a sick kid or feel like I let my son down when I don’t get home in time to see him before he goes to sleep (thank god I’ve got an amazing hubbie to pick up my slack). I think we’re our own worst enemies when it comes to expectations. We’re all just doing the best we can and that’s all we can do 🙂

        • Aw, thanks so much Lari!
          I love that quote too! I know you don’t kst your team or family down but I understand that ongoing critical internal voice that tells us otherwise. You are right, we are our own worse enemies but rest assured you are doing a fabulous job!!
          X

  2. Good on you Em. While striking the balance will always be hard, it’s great to hear that you’re enjoying being back at work 🙂 Keep on keeping on. You really are a superstar xx

  3. I really struggled returning to work. I was only able to take off 12 weeks with Lucy and she was still so little when I did go back. It broke my heart and for about the first month or two I cried everyday and it got very tiring plastering the “I’m so happy, everything’s great” smile on my face and pulling off the “oh yeah I can totally hold down a full time job, look after a new born and be a domestic goddess” all at the same time, oh and having a terminally ill father, not so great mum health wise and having Lucy tested for epilepsy hasn’t add any extra stress at all but little by little it got easier once I discovered the slow cooker/ bulk freezing meals, left the washing until I was literally wearing laundry day clothes (woohoo for granny undies) and realising how much stuff I can cram into my tiny little closet when guests were on their way over. I was one of the lucky ones that had a fantastic support network at work as well and that in itself made a world of difference. I still feel guilty most days that I have goose in full time care but she loves it and I know that at the moment this is what Is right for our family. That’s what gets me through the days. That and copious amounts of hot coffee, talking to adult friends and weeing without someone knocking on the door or trying to sit on my lap. 🙂

    • Oh my goodness Sarah, you are truly supermum!
      I can only imagine how hard going back to work must of been, and I’m terribly sorry about your dad 🙁
      You are so strong and Lucy is ver lucky to have such a great mum!
      Thank you for sharing your story.
      X

  4. It definitely gets easier as the kids get bigger and you find your feet at work. But the guilt never goes away. There’s always that feeling that you’re letting someone down. I’ve been so lucky to have an awesome husband that shares the load, but that has come from asking for help. The whole ‘having it all thing’ sometimes makes it harder. Sometimes you have to stop and realise you can have everything you have and that’s pretty amazing. I heard someone say ‘you can have it all, you just can’t have it all right now!’. Figure out what you need right now and where you need to focus to be the best you.

    Awesome post Em

    • Thanks so much Em!

      All your words ring true, especially about where it is most important to focus on for the time being.
      I have always admired your ability to perform and work, to be present at home and such a giving friend. I know you feel the guilt but you shouldn’t because you’re kicking butt!
      X

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