My son turned two just 24 days before my daughter was born. He gave me a true understanding of the terrible twos. He was so jealous of his new baby sister he would hit and push her. He was so desperate for our attention he would hit and bite us. Believe me, he still got a bucket load of attention and love, he just wasn’t used to sharing it.
In the early days, my husband and I were so exhausted. We still wanted to have a bigger family in the future but we were in struggle-town with only two kids. How could we possibly have more? We reasoned with ourselves that a three year age gap before the next baby would make it easier next time, only to be met with comments like “Oh no, just wait, three is WAY WORSE than two!”.
“How could that be possible?” we thought. But who were we to argue? Those people had a three year-old, we didn’t, so we couldn’t know.
Well now we’re here, my son turned three the other week. Now we do have a three year old and I can whole-heartedly tell you three is BETTER than two.
Here’s a few reasons why:
1. My three year old is toilet trained. I no longer have to chase him around begging and bribing him to let me change his stinky nappy. (Or hold him down and try change it as quick as possible while he kicked me repeatedly in the caesarean wound.)
2. He no longer needs a sleep in the day. Key word: NEEDS! Even though I had a few magical weeks when I managed to get both kids to sleep at the same time and have an hour to myself (i.e. clean up the kids’ lunch, stuff some food in may face and collapse on the couch for 10 minutes before one of them woke up), it is much better to have a child that can go all day without a sleep and not be so tired that they completely lose the plot. This also means you are not trapped in the house all day when the kids don’t coordinate sleep times.
3. Language. While I was very lucky to have a two year old that could speak in full sentences, sing the whole alphabet and parrot almost any word you told him, his language now at three is even better which means less frustration for both of us.
4. Three year olds don’t put random things in their mouths. You can leave a three year old unattended for a moment while you change the baby’s nappy and know they are not attempting to eat the sudocream.
5. Lastly, and probably most importantly; no more teething! Two year olds are cutting molars, three years olds have a full set of toddler teeth.
Do you have kids? If so, what is the age gap between them? What is the pros and cons of the gap? Love to know as I am considering going for the third bub (but leaving a gap)!