ADULTHOOD GAVE ME BIPOLAR.
Nah not really, but let’s talk about how the sometimes underwhelming transition from childhood to adulthood can affect our mental health, and how we can fix it!
The transition between drawing dicks on your mathematics book and drawing dicks on your office desk is a critical stage of human development. It is a period of social, psychological and physical change, not to mention that once you begin to grow up, it is damn near impossible to slow the process down.
I was 10 years of age. I lived in what seemed to me a big busy city called Auckland. The air was dry and sweet, the gravel was patchy and at often (unsupervised) times my friends and I found ourselves with cuts and bruises after a skate session on the way home from school. Back then the kids were mean, but the adults were awesome.
All the adults that I knew had rad jobs, ate rad food and appeared to have endless freedom when it came to their creative outlets. I couldn’t wait to grow up. “When I’m older I am going to write music, fall in love and live in a rad home near the beach.” dreamt a small freckled breezus. I yearned to be a 20 something, so much so that I dropped out of school at age 16 with the very odd intention of fast tracking my path to sweet full grown freedom. Approximately 2 shit relationships, 10 failed friendships and perhaps 1,000,000 lost jobs later I realised at a tender 24 years of age that adulthood was nothing but a sneaky charade. Why you ask?
MAYBZ COZ WE SPEND ALL OUR TIME MAKING MONEY WE DON’T GET A MOMENT TO SPEND AND THEN THE OTHER FORESKIN LENGTH OF TIME WE HAVE FREE WE TEAR OTHER ADULTS DOWN WHO ARE MAYBE MAKING MORE MONEY THAN US & THAT’S NOT FAIR SO PERHAPS WE WILL TELL THE MANAGER BARB THAT JONATHAN AND CLARE ARE SLEEPING TOGETHER AND SHE SHOULD GIVE THEM A WRITTEN WARNING OK?
In Primary School let’s swap out math class for “how to cope with your passive aggressive colleague 101” and perhaps English could be replaced with “how to conquer the guilt you face after pretending you didn’t hear the homeless male asking you for change units 3 & 4”. Previous research has demonstrated that youth experiencing depression during the transition period into their twenties often suffer significant depressive episodes as a result of the overwhelming change. I am sure this is not a shock to you, we all remember that super awkward time upon realising it’s not cute that you can’t afford your rent anymore. Or when peeing in public is definitely a no go zone no matter how many double vodka’s you’ve swallowed.
Let’s discuss how we can make the realm of adulthood just a notch easier on us all.
As always Breezus Lives has below a list of tips for social change. I like to call it the Breezus ten point program for not being a super depressed-tired-drunk-adult-human.
1. The good life is a life inspired by love and understanding. It’s so much easier to hate and judge, try listening to other humans and learning about their adversities instead of ignoring them.
2. The earth is a beautiful magical place. Treat nature like you would a tender sexy one night stand. Be gentle and kind when you’re near her, enjoy her and protect her (just like when you were a child).
3. Animals don’t know you are an asshole adult. Be kind to them as a child would, they don’t understand that their poop on the carpet makes you angry. Everybody poops.
4. Talk with your friends. Really talk with them. Talk about your dreams, your pitfalls and your highs. If your friends suck at talking, I will be your new friend.
5. I know nowadays we get chubbier a lot quicker than when we were little kids. But curves are sexy. Enjoy that taco, your childhood self says “omg thx”.
6. Relationships can be like Disney movies (kinda). Some days you break into an impromptu love duet and some days you watch back to back house hunters together for 6 hours. Don’t give up on love.
7. Cry like a little baby. Projecting is a normal part of childhood. It’s embedded into us across the course of evolution, this is to let our pack members know something’s not right with one of their cubs. Your body is asking you for a tear session, allow yourself this, it’s one of the key outlets for a mentally sound mind.
8. Let go of the obsession with money. Srsly tho. Why is it so essential for you to be that rich? You know you will never win this game, money will always beat you. A good friend once said to me it is a drug of which you can never have enough. Middle income earners can afford meals at Vue de Monde as well ya know (perhaps not as often, lel). Life is for living – release yourself into freedom and flick off that 60 hour working week.
9. Be an Astronaut. A good Segway from point 8. If you want to be an astronaut go and do it. The worst that will happen from pursuing your dreams now is you will fall short, maybe you’re not in space, but I bet you’re the Hardware Engineer in the Research Centre 😉
10. Love yo’self as much as possible. This is super hard, I’m still working on it, so it’s definitely not a flippant suggestion. The thing is loving yourself and conquering your mental health concerns go hand in hand, validation should only come from you, it is your life and your story to tell. The great-majestic-all powerful Oprah Winfrey said on Piers Morgan Live “I spend more time alone than anybody would imagine…I made peace with myself at an early age. I really am content being alone with some books.”
Thanks for reading 🙂 Much <3
Bree Stewart is a 20-something mental illness advocate who lives in Melbourne’s inner west. Diagnosed with Bipolar II, Bree strives to break stigmas challenging mental health in Australia through her website breezus lives. Bree has an art background, previously a graphic artist and musician she is now currently training in acting. Stay updated at breezuslives.com .